Fear is a social construct. I've realized most of my fears have been developed through what other people told me about the world. And one of the most dangerous mistakes in life I believe is accepting what others have told us about this existence at face value.
Sometimes we aren't able to see how much life has pushed the next person around. The signs of personal failure aren't written clearly on anyone's face per se. But one of the easiest ways to see how far our ambitions go is what we fear. Our fears keep us in behavioral, social, and mental patterns that feel "safe", when in reality the danger is in avoiding our fears. We end up later down the road in life surrounded by the illegitimate fears of others we've come in contact with and the fears our own conscience has built creating an abusive self-psychology about how our fate is unraveling.
But fears can be broken just as they were created. They won't be torn down overnight because they didn't happen overnight either. I believe the first step is asking ourselves "Is it real?" And by determining if a fear is real or not I have the ability change it. Everything else flows from the acceptance that, much of what we fear isn't real. But ironically before some human being latched their first fear on any of us for life, we had to believe in it.
I can only wonder what fear has taken from my life thus far. I can only imagine all that I have to get back from it. I can only imagine how many fears I'm still carrying from other people. But acceptance is the first step in recovery.